Gossip makes me…. WHAT?

What is the one thing that comes in your mind when someone says the word ” gossip”?

Take a moment and think…

I also took a moment and felt drained! It may be that my life is so hectic nowadays…and I am sure many of you feel the same but the word ” gossip” makes me super tired.

God gave us two ears and one mouth so that we could listen more and may be talk less  (hence one mouth and two ears?) When we open our mouths we can either bless or curse and it only takes a spark,to set off a forest fire. I believe that a careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that….. which is quite scary….

It’s not that I am a Saint and have never gossiped, I do every now and then and I have always thought that as long as my ” discussion” about someone is not harmful and is anonymous, it’s ok! But is it really ok?

Before I share my thoughts about this topic, I would firstly like to say that this is just my opinion, not a critic to anyone, anywhere in the world and I did not actually planned to write about it, just like I never actually plan about my posts, except of course ” Coffee with Sisdiaries” ( By the way, did you read the first one? ).  Anyways…..I just got an idea while I was at work and felt that it’s good to have a loose talk about something all of us do, one way or the other!

Secondly…and it’s very very important that I mention that a large number of my friends literally and I mean it, are not a gossiper ( if that’s a word). There has been times that me and my friends have talked about someone but that is it. And as I am writing this, I am thinking hard if it is accurate information and I am feeling proud that it is.

But I also have people in my life who keep on talking about same topics, same people over and over again…and I feel drained! I feel that there is no end! Luckily the number is very very small…its almost next to nothing! So thank God for that!

Once I was talking to my sister ( who by the way, is wiser than me) , so as we were talking about a certain thing, she said ( which in fact is something I know too, even if she is the wiser one…lol ). Anyways she said that if a friend of yours is talking about another good friend making you feel that this other friend is strange or a character, then you should be aware of this friend of yours….I actually got a bit irritated but lately I have realized that once a person you call your very good friend talks too much about every other person, you should be aware of this person…because you might be the next target.

I have learned the hard way that gossip in fact betrays a confidence!

 

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I don’t know why but this picture which I didn’t take for this blogpost suddenly seems too appropriate to use here!

 

Then there is another aspect to this very topic. What if I want to share an information for the sake of getting some advice. Can I share the information without using names? or make it very anonymous? Is it still a gossip??

We “girls” are very good at sharing information and I do it all the time, but may be we should wait a second and think about why are we talking and sharing this much? And filter the information which I have to share contra what I feel talking about just to fill the air!

What do you do, when someone is sharing an information which you are not interested in hearing? Do you keep on listening or making a small talk around it or do you stop that person? Can anyone have this much courage to do it?? I don’t! It requires guts to tell people you like that this is not a topic you are interested in discussing or hearing for that matter!

Can we try to be better by encouraging each other to avoid inappropriate information. I mean you should share it by all means if you feel like doing it and if you feel like listening it. But the dilemma is, what if you are not interested????

I believe that what comes out of your mouth gives a picture of what is truly in your heart. If you are bitter, angry, or unforgiving your words will probably not be full of love.  But may be if you allow your heart to be filled with mercy, grace, and love ,your words will be filled with the same.

May be we should instead of thinking about others, fill our hearts with courage ,satisfaction and confidence to see just the good in other people? And think every time we try to share an information if we are sharing just for the sake of sharing to fill the air? I know I have to work on it. Do you too???

Lastly I believe that if your heart is filled with a bad feel after you gossiped, it’s a good thing! It’s a good feel.

And on this note, I wish everyone a great week ahead! Make the best of every single minute and enjoy your life. Love ya!

 

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Tiny feet & my horoscope slays!

Todays horoscope for Gemini was all about writing and wrting something pleasant! Well here I am sitting late in the night and writing a pleasant thing. I am taking my inspiration from this picture of me and tiny feet, in the background which have made me smile since yesterday…..

 

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As a mother ,you live, breathe, and sacrifice for the well-being of your children. Seeing them happy makes you happy, and seeing them sad, makes you sad! It’s so much fun to see them enjoy things you enjoy and most of all see them appreciate things you do…because you do the same with them and for them. I can’t speak for anyone else but for me it’s such a delight to see that my kids enjoy with me and that’s a happy thing!

They say that the relation between a mother and a child can never be compared with any other relation, and I believe this, but I also believe that this relation also need proper care and nourishment to be sucessful. You have to have a light side and show your children that you can also have fun and you are not just a person who makes rules.

Sometimes, you are in your own world, not realizing that your kids are having time of their life just watching you pose! I think it’s a good thing. Instead of getting bored, they are all in and having so much fun on their own way. I asked them yesterday if it was fun for them to stand behind me and they started laughing. ( PS. I also found out that there were two more feet there which are not visible in the picture…My son told me that he was standing right behind my daughter). I loved this picture so much that I shared it on my instagram and recieved so much love for it. So thank you all for liking all the normal things 🙂

This post was supposed to be pleasant so to make it more pleasant I want to share a few clicks of this dress which everyone loved so much. I did not honestly know that so many would love it so much…. so thanks a lot 🙂 I love it too, it’s super cute!

So here you go….

 

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I never do a dress post and I am not sure if I would do one , but it’s fun sharing a few clicks just when you are talking about something else! Do give me feedback!

Last but not the least , a note to self and to my lovely readers: Surround yourself with good thoughts, enjoy every moment and appreciate everything!

And on this note, Good night lovely people:-)

 

Parenting is not easy….

Sitting here on my couch, having a cup of really well deserved tea ( everyday chae), newly washed hair and watching 1st episode of season 5 of Orphan Black….

I want to take a moment and be thankful for all the good things I have in my life! and most of all my sweetest children who make me strong and positive because of their positive natures!

 

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I was thinking that this weekend has gone so smooth. Lately I have been observing that after all the renovation, mess and misplaced things, I get a little stressed and that results in that I get irritated many times a day. Imagine that we grown ups have a tendency to be so stressed so think about children! How do they tackle it!!! It was a time that my son started telling our neighbours that he did not like going home because everything is so messy! Poor thing!!

Multiple times in the past weeks I have argued with my children, and they have argued back which stressed me even more because honestly you think that kids should do everything as they are told to but with growing age, they get different personalities and opinions which should absolutely be heard!

Children love to argue if they feel that grown ups are arguing back! In a hope of taking control we just miss the point and are caught up in this really bad circle. I have learned that all types of arguing is in fact not bad! You just have to understand if their arguing is positive or negative…

Things are luckily getting much better at home as some of you have seen bits of my new home ( after renovation) on instagram stories. I will try to do a post when we are completely done!

Anyways I was saying that I have understood that the more you show your children that you are in a mood to argue, they will keep on pushing your buttons. My advice : Don’t stay in the situation or you will get angry!!

I have started learning about myself and my abilities. Sometimes you experience things in life which makes you so vulnerable and no matter what the situation is, you start thinking from the same perspective. It’s so important to change your perspective. Nobody is perfect but to keep on learning about ourselves is such a brilliant thing. I happen to believe that these past days I have learned to control my irritation and started focusing on if my children’s arguments are positive or negative and guess what I have found out that most of the times, they have a point! And that alone makes things so smooth and I feel that we have so much fun and less arguing!

Making long story short, I am not an expert but sharing a few tips that might help someone because I believe everyone knows these things but sometimes it is magical to hear from someone else, so here it goes:

Listen to your kids and focus on their thoughts. Are they positive or negative?

Think often like a child!

Don’t argue and if you think that you absolutely are right..take a moment, go to your room and think of a good reply.

Play with them,evenwhen you feel it’s a silly game.

Treat them like adults and explain things to them instead of saying ” because I said so! ”

Don’t hang over them all the time, let them find themselves without you helping them all the time.

Guard your anger button and focus on influencing your child’s motivation.

I am working on these things every day but honestly sometimes you just forget what you have learned. Do not feel ashamed of yourself, you are doing a remarkable job and being an angry mom is sometimes totally ok!

And on this note have a good night:-)

PS. Thank you to all those who loved my last post and also those who said that they want to know more about me ❤

Let’s Have Coffee with Sisdiaries!

Can’t tell how excited I am to do this segment! My heart is pounding and I feel like doing something great! I am smiling as I am writing this and so excited to share my very first Coffee with Sisdiaries….

 

Usually I just talk about myself, my thoughts and my experiences, which I love doing of course and I feel that if I can inspire one soul out there, it’s worth doing it! I have been thinking to do something fun and something where I can involve my audience too. And at the same time I want to introduce you to women who are living a normal family life, having lots of responsibilities, doing a 8 am to 16 pm job but still finds time to do what inspires them most and what they are passionate about!

 

I get so much positive energy from these women who finds time and use it wisely while doing everything else that comes as a ” responsibility”. Women should empower each other and help each other bloom! And I think if I can make a difference, I would be honoured!

 

These stories may inspire others too who think that having a regular job and having kids and family means that you can not pursue your dream because guess what …YOU CAN!!!

 

My first coffee date is with one of Norway’s first Pakistani photographer who gave photography a new and fresh touch and I am so happy that you will get to know her through my blog!

 

We met at Jamie Olivers restaurant the other day after work and had a lovely chat. It was a rainy day and cold but both of us were excited for this and that alone made it so much fun!

 

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So ladies may I introduce you to Shumaila of ” ShumailaHussain Photography”!

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Interview:

Your name and location? Shumaila / Oslo, Norway

 

Your passion:  Mainly photography.

 

Is your passion your profession too? If not, what is your regular job? I wish, but no. I work as a software developer.

 

How many kids do you have, their age? I have Ma Sha Allah two kids ages 5 and 2. A small happy family.

 

How do you combine your hobby with your normal life? 

Its hard! Its down right hard. A job, family and home leaves very little time to pursue my passion. But I try as much as possible to keep my first baby ( my camera !) close to me. I hate to say I barely take my kids photos with my DSLR but mostly use my Iphone 7 plus for pictures and videos. The portrait feature in Iphone 7 is really cool.

 

What motivated you to start taking photographs?

I have always been drawn towards photography. I was barely ever in front of the camera. When I was 8/9 years old my cousin had an SLR and the pictures she used to take of us always turned out extra special. I think deep down that have been my motivation…

 

Who is your inspiration?

The list is long. But in simple words creative people inspire me. There is so much inspiration and creativness on social media today. I don’t think in this time and age anyone can live without being inspired by one person or another. In terms of photography I am highly inspired by Sujata Setia! What a magician she is. I love how she not only capture the person but their soul in a photograph. I also am a fan of Sojhla in Norway.

 

When did you buy your first camera? And what type was it?

I bought my first DSLR in 2008. It was canon 450d. I’ve had digital cameras before and an old Minolta analogue SLR which I found in junk at my grandmothers house in the village. It was a beautiful camera and opened up many doors for my vision in photography.

 

Your current camera/lens?

I own canon 5d mark 2. And I love my canon 70-200 f2.8. I have other lenses too collecting dust, although I use 50mm f1.4 quite a bit too. I don’t feel the need to upgrade my camera body, it meets my requirement more than enough.

 

When did you realize that you can be a photographer?

I did not realize that! My cousins and sister made me do it. Funny as it may sound but they had faith in my talent more than I had it. They always stood model for me. My sister made me start a Facebook Fanpage in 2008, before that I was only blogging about my photography and posting on deviantart. I had my first paid shoot in 2008 which was a gift from my cousin to her friend.  I owe a lot to these girls.

 

Do you get any support at home for fulfilling your passion?

Yes! Anything is impossible without support from home. My sister is my real critique. My parents always appreciate my work.

 

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

Probably doing what I am doing now. And my kids as my assistants. I really wish to have my own space one day.

 

How do you not loose yourself in a world of many photographers?

My goal is not wedding photography. Been there done that, and will never do. My area of interest is families and kids.

 

What is your most favourite work? And Why?

I love all my family and kids shoots. Their smiles are contagious. I love documenting the early newborn days, the family love and bond.

 

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We are living in a world where each day a new person is coming in this field, either professionely or as a hobbyist. What would you suggest to the new comers?

Your competition is only with yourself. When we start competing against the existing ones in a field,  we fail and we fail miserably. Find your style and stick with it and educate yourself. Its a constant learning process.

And with this question we ended our interview!

I hope you enjoyed my interview with Shumaila! I would love to get in touch with girls who are pursuing their dreams. We always talk about that someone has got a degree in something, was best in class etc etc, but we should give equal appreciation and celebrate the fun things people do and are passionate about!

We get this life just once…so do everything that makes you happy and that you know can make some one else happy too!

And on this note, happy weekend and I would love your feedback!

Love ya!